Self love is something that a lot of women struggle with from a young age and unfortunately continue to deal with as they get older. There are so many reasons that self love is difficult to practice in reality. Things like the images we see on TV and in the media that secretly tell us we aren’t good enough, limitations we place on ourselves, diet culture and the list goes on. It is my personal belief that self love is something that is very individual to each person. What works for one person won’t work quite the same for someone else. So finding what works for you and putting in the work is essential. Which is why I wanted to reach out to some amazing women that I admire in the health and wellness industry to see how they practice self love in their everyday life. I hope that this post inspires you to try something new when it comes to self love or just encourages you to be a bit kinder to yourself. If you are interested, please check out my 21-Day Self Love Challenge that starts January 7th! But if you’re reading this after, you can join anytime and complete it on your own time.
How to Practice Self Love
I wanted to dive deeper into the idea of how to practice self love so I asked each woman how they practice self love. Below, you will find their responses. Enjoy!
Andrea Brown: Balancing Andie
I practice self love by not being so rigid with myself. Life is not meant to be linear so allowing myself extra time to sleep in or do what I love or work more one day is how I practice self love. To me it’s more than just pampering myself (which I obviously love to do) but I think most importantly, self love just boils down to acceptance and allowing life to carry me in the flow and enjoy the ride.
– Andie (Balancing Andie)
Oh boy, I think my self-love routine has grown quite a lot in recent years but I will share my non-negotiables.
1) morning meditation : 5-10 minutes in the morning
2) daily mantras: filling my mind with positive and empowering thoughts that make me feel good and step into my higher self. For example, I am abundant, money flows easily to me, I love money & money loves me, I am valuable, I deserve all of the success that comes my way, I deserve to be paid for my great work, etc.
3) daily gratitude: I will rhyme off 10-15 things that I am really grateful for — even as simple as my bed, my phone, my health, my family & friends (naming each person individually)
4) saying no, only aligning myself with activities and people that make me feel good. This was a tough one at first but honouring my personal space and what truly makes me the happiest the best decision I could have made.
5) journaling: I love writing my way through problems, struggles and triumphs. It’s been a great exercise for me and I love looking back on old entries to see how far I have grown.
– Rachael (Gluten Freedom Inc.)
What I’ve personally found to be very foundational for me is becoming aware of my inner voice. I imagine talking to 6-year-old Maya. Some people call it your inner child. When I tune into that inner child it allows me to look at myself without judgement and treat myself with love, gentleness and respect.
– Maya (mayaeid.com)
My self-love practice involves a combination of mental, physical and spiritual routines and techniques for healing. I believe in the interconnectedness of all 3 and that true self-love is nurturing ourselves holistically. My mental self-love practices include regularly attending therapy sessions and following suggestions on books and practices from my trusted therapist, journaling and working on improving my “self-talk” to be more positive. Physically, I make sure to get at least 30 minutes of movement in 5-6 times a week, tuning into what will serve my body best each day. I also practice intuitive eating, meaning that I listen to what my body needs each week, day and meal. I cook myself nourishing meals that will help me feel good and make me happy and excited to eat. Spiritually, I attempt to incorporate an intentionally mindful practice almost every day. This may be a few minutes of meditation or breath-work, phone-less walk, yoga or simply spending time cuddling with my dog. A few of my self-love practices that fall under all three of these categories are: setting boundaries in my work, schedule and relationships, bi-monthly acupuncture sessions and making sure I am surrounded by a good support system.
– Helene (All The Verdure)
Self-love is a little less “sexy” for me and a little more practical. It’s about doing things every day that fill my cup, whether that’s putting good food in my body or not beating myself up if I happen to have “fun food” (or more commonly known as “junk food”). It’s saying no to things I don’t want to do and prioritizing healthy, fulfilling friendships and relationships. It’s doing my best to stay true to myself everyday to ensure I am doing things for me and not other people.
– Rachel (rachelmmolenda.com)
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I practice self-love by setting a daily routine that makes me feel nourished and rejuvenated. I love starting my mornings with a warm cup of lemon water, followed up a walk in the fresh air or a workout that challenges my body. I practice self-love by recognizing my body and mind for everything it can do, over the things that it cant.
– Jass (nourishwithjass.com)
I am extremely Type A and thrive on the hustle and bustle of my life. But, that means that I can often get overworked, feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally drained. As much as I advocate self-love with my clients I funnily enough don’t think I practice self-love until I reach that point of exhaustion and burn out. My job is extremely demanding, not only physically, but socially, emotionally, and mentally – giving lots of energy out to others every hour of the day. This means that most of my self-love practices happen alone. It might be as simple as being able to not set an alarm in the morning, hang out in my pjs a little longer, read a book, or lounge on the couch watching some TV. Other things I try to implement more regularly include massages and floats as they not only relax my body but my mind as well. I also do love spending time with those important to me. I always feel recharged after spending time with family and close friends.
I practice self-love by prioritizing nutrition, sleep, movement, relationship, and spirituality. Perhaps the most important and transformative self-love practice that I engage in is the careful observation and editing of my thought patterns. I have learned to identify thought patterns that negatively effect my self-esteem and quality of life. Once I identify these unhelpful thought patterns, I challenge them, and replace them with thought patterns that nourish me. Like many women, I struggle with feelings of insecurity and unworthiness. I used to tell myself that I was unloveable, unattractive, and incapable, and I still catch myself doing it to this day, but over time, I have learned to stop these self-defeating thoughts and supplant them with thoughts that build me up. I have also learned to eliminate or avoid media, environments, and even people who are toxic for my well-being. One of my favorite self-care practices is my morning matcha latte ritual. It’s a simple routine, but it has come to mean a lot to me. My lattes are medicinal, because I add adaptogenic herbs that support my mental and physical health, but the ritual is also a quiet time for breathing deeply and meditating on how I want my day to go. This quiet morning routine is non-negotiable for me, and I maintain it while I travel. Some of my other non-negotiable self-love practices include balanced eating (also maintained while traveling and during the holidays because that’s what makes me feel best), saying “no” to requests that don’t feel right, and trusting my intuition.
– Cory (@tinycleankitchen)
I practice self-love in many ways but my absolute favourite thing to do is rituals! My morning ritual is so sacred to me. It has truly made such a positive impact on my life.
My phone was my alarm clock for the longest time, until I switched to one of those wake-up clocks that gradually gets brighter 30 minutes before my wake-up time. I wake up to the sound of the ocean and it’s so peaceful! Before I sit up, I lay in bed and say out loud three things I am grateful for. It really helps to set a positive tone for my day. Then, I basically love up on myself. I stretch my legs, my arms, I hug myself, like a mini yoga practice, in bed. This lets my body know how much I love it and how grateful I am to be in it. After this little love fest, I go do my bathroom shenanigans and then I head to the kitchen to make myself some warm water with lemon and sit in the kitchen (on the patio in the summer) and just chill and enjoy the stillness of the house. This all takes about 30-45 minutes. I don’t look at my phone until all of this is done! And when I feel like it, I head to the gym or do a mini home workout. I find that I have so much energy in the morning after running through the whole ritual. This is self-love to me because I take the time to show up for myself and my body rewards me by feeling good inside and out!
– Tina (tinagravalos.com)
I practice self-love by taking time for myself in the mornings. I do 10 minutes of guided mediation and say an affirmation. I also avoid social media for at least an hour while I get ready for the day.
– Carley (carleynadine.com)
It’s a work in progress and, to be honest, a constant challenge. Saying “no” to things I don’t want to do has been HUGE in my life lately. I used to say yes to everything and found my days full of stuff I didn’t like and then I would be mean to myself for not wanting to do them.
These days, if it’s not a “hell yes” then it’s a no. Of course, I still have to do stuff I don’t love, but by saying “no” more often, I have extra energy for the unavoidable parts of life that must get done… like keeping my cast iron pan clean.
– Ashley (ashleysauvehealth.com)
I hope that you found this helpful, I know that I loved reading everyone’s insights. It just goes to show you that everyone practices self-love and self-care a little bit differently and that is a beautiful thing. If you want to read more about self-care, have a look at my previous blog post.
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Please share with me below what self-love means to you and how you practice self love in your daily life?